Couples: Is That TMI (Too Much Information) ?

In the beginning, the couple’s smiles, dreamy eyes and excitement for recently being
engaged means everything because they’re so happy! The clock couldn’t move fast enough to
contact the family and snatch the opportunity to post on social media. Things are starting to look
exactly like they’ve dreamed UNTIL it hits! The excitement soon turns into feelings of being
overwhelmed. Everyone has an opinion and at times forces their views on the couple. No one
jumps at the opportunity to hurt someone’s feelings BUT to keep focused, some things need to
be said. So, you ask; just when is it too much information? Too much information in the sense of
everyone voicing their opinions about your special day and what you need to do!!! Here are 3
pointers to keep in mind when planning your wedding and how to professionally disregard
everyone’s opinion that crowds out your original vision as a couple.

1. Hire A Professional Wedding Planner: I know it sounds cliché, but it’s the one
thing you should do now and thank yourself later for! Planners love to see couples
take the most important day of their lives so serious that they desire to plan it
themselves. This is the reason why most planners offer a month of coordination,
partial planning or full-service planning. Still most couples don’t realize how hard the
planning is, until they’re deep into it. Yet a lot of unnecessary stress comes from
certain individuals wishing to take over planning the wedding or have unsolicited
opinions. There’s no one who’s rooting for the couple harder than the wedding
planner. Planners are dedicated to keeping focus and bringing the couple’s dream to
reality. They are well seasoned and trained to professionally handle those
uncomfortable conversions with family members or the bridal party. Save yourself
the headache and hire a professional wedding planner!

2. Stay True to Your Vision: This is so important to remember and has a two-fold
meaning.
A. Support your mate! There’s nothing worse than watching a couple disagree or be
pressured to choose sides. Maybe you both view things differently; allow
yourself time to go off privately and communicate how you feel. Be open, to
hearing both views and decide what’s best for the wedding. The end decision
needs to reflect what makes you both happy.
B. Stick to your guns! Unsolicited opinions can come across very strong and most
people mean well when passing out their two cents. However, sometimes
emotions can get stirred up and it causes you to doubt yourself or second guess
the decision you’ve made after hearing so many other’s opinion. In these
instances, a simple smile and nod your head can deter the situation. Thank them
for their thoughts and keep going. Be quick to change the subject! Usually a
person gets your drift when you’ve done this. The point is to know who’s input
really matters to you and whose to take with a grain of salt.

3. Delegate: This one is a proactive move! Most of your family or close friends want to
feel like they’re a part of your day. You can nip the “what about me” frustrations in
the bud by already having a project assigned to various ones. Notice how the
following are a few examples of being proactive. For the person who loves music, let
them assist in putting together the playlist. For that special someone who loves
flowers, allow them to assist with meeting the floral vendor. There’s always someone
who loves food, allow them to join you with food tasting vendors. Try to be creative
and give people something they enjoy or like doing. Resist the urge to micromanage
and allow them to help where need be.
The bottom line is everyone will be there and present to see you both. They are excited to
share this special day with you and can’t wait to tell everyone how beautiful everything was!
Even in happy occasions such as this, planning your special day, can bring about some of the
most unnecessary stress. That stress can be alleviated by following step 1. Hiring a professional
wedding planner is more than spending money. It’s a wise investment to ensuring the most
important day of your life goes exceptionally well so you have fond memories to reflect on. Talk
with your desired wedding planner to see what can be arranged to fit your situation. Planning a
wedding is already a task, remind yourself of these tips when the TMI starts rolling in!